I hope you’re having an amazing holiday. It struck me as I was reflecting on the past year that the holidays can be a very lonely time for some, especially those who are still waiting for a partner.
As some of you may know, I’m a huge fan of The Secret. I believe in manifesting the things you want and need in your life. Therefore, if you’re feeling a little blue this holiday season because you haven’t met the right one yet, here are my tips to manifest the man of your dreams.
1. Know exactly what you want.
It’s important to be honest with yourself on exactly what you want. Don’t seek the guy you think your friends will like- your ideal mate should be suited to you!
2. Sit down and write down all the qualities and details that you want to have in your future man.
Keep it close to you on a piece of paper, or in the notes on your computer or phone.
3. You have to be very specific to every little detail.
Don’t be afraid to really get in the weeds on the details! Be careful and cautious to include every detail you can think of. You always have to be careful what you wish for, right? So if you focus all your energy on attracting a wealthy man and forget to account for generosity, the man might be stingy and uncharitable. That’s not very attractive!
4. Do not use don’t.
Use everything in present tense. Here’s an example. The man of my dreams loves me, cares about me, fulfills me emotionally, physically, financially, etc.
5. Picture it like it’s already happening.
Really sit down and meditate over the picture of what this man looks like and what your life with him will be like him. Don’t allow yourself to be interrupted by the thought that you don’t know what it will be like or any uncertainty. Work to really feel it like it’s real!
6. You should get excited thinking about it.
Infusing happiness and positive vibes into this mental image is crucial. This is why number 7 is very important.
7. Repeat this exercise only in positive moods.
If you’re in a bad mood, don’t work on these exercises. You should only be happy and excited to visualize this life, and negative feelings may permeate the vision and your future mate!
8. Be clear about which flaws you are ready to accept.
Nobody is perfect. Hoping for a mate who is absolutely flawless isn’t realistic. Instead, consider the flaws that you’d be willing to accept and those that are just hard nos.
9. Let go of your past.
As hard as it may be, you should wait to do this exercise until you have absolutely no feelings left for your ex anymore. Easier said than done, but holding onto disappointed love just gets in the way of new energy coming into your life. It just gets in your way.
Visualizing the type of man I want to be with and what kind of relationship will fulfill me has been tough for me before. Sometimes I didn’t wish correctly, missed certain details or didn’t think hard enough about the bad stuff like flaws! However, I’ve fine-tuned my approach, and I’m happy to say it has worked better than ever. 🙂 Good luck, and happy manifesting!